Family & Estate Mediation家庭与遗产调解
Let's talk outside the court — one last time.在对簿公堂之前，再谈最后一次。
You did not fall out with your family over a piece of land. You fell out because everybody is tired, nobody feels heard, and the matter has been stuck for so long that pride has become part of the estate. One room. One neutral person. One more honest conversation before the courtroom takes it out of your hands.你们不是为了一块地才走到这一步。你们走到这一步，是因为大家都累了、没有人觉得自己被听见，而这件事僵持得太久，连面子都成了遗产的一部分。一个房间，一位中立的人，在法庭把决定权拿走之前，再好好谈一次。
- MIMC-accredited mediatorMIMC 认证调解员
- Private & without prejudice私密进行 · 不损权益
- Fixed fee, shared between parties固定收费 · 各方分担
If any of this sounds familiar如果以下情况似曾相识
The deadlock has a shape. You know it when you are in it.僵局是有形状的。身在其中的人，一看就懂。
- The estate has been frozen for months and nobody will move first.遗产已经僵持了几个月，谁都不肯先退一步。
- One sibling wants to sell the house. Another will not hear of it.一个兄弟姐妹想卖掉房子，另一个连听都不愿听。
- Somebody has lodged a caveat, and now everyone has a lawyer.有人下了地契保留（caveat），于是每个人都请了律师。
- The will says one thing; the family remembers a promise that says another.遗嘱写的是一回事，家人记得的承诺却是另一回事。
- You are not really fighting about the money. You are fighting about being heard.你们争的其实不是钱，而是有没有被听见。
A contested estate in the courts commonly runs for years and costs a great deal more than the parties expect — and the bill is usually paid out of the very estate everyone is fighting over. The relationships rarely survive it. Mediation exists because there is another way to end this.遗产争议一旦进入法庭，往往拖上数年，费用也远超各方预期——而这笔账，通常就从大家争夺的那份遗产里扣。关系很少能熬过这一程。调解之所以存在，是因为结束这件事，还有另一条路。
What we are actually selling我们真正提供的
Not a victory. A Chinese New Year where everyone still comes.不是胜诉，而是下一个农历新年，大家仍然愿意回来。
In court there is a winner and a loser, and the loser is family. In mediation, the aim is an outcome each person can live with and defend to their own children — the house dealt with, the money divided, the promise honoured, and the relationships still standing on the other side of it.在法庭上有赢家也有输家，而输的那一方，是家人。在调解里，我们要的是一个每个人都能接受、也能向自己孩子交代的结果——房子有了安排、钱有了分配、承诺得到履行，而关系，在这一切之后依然还在。
That is not naive optimism. It works because the room is private, because nothing said can be used later, and because someone in it is responsible only for the agreement — not for winning.这不是天真的乐观。它之所以有效，是因为房间是私密的、说过的话日后不能被拿来用，而且房里有一个人，只对「达成协议」负责，不对「赢」负责。
| Who decides由谁决定 | A judge法官 | You do你们自己 |
| Timeline所需时间 | Years数年 | Weeks数周 |
| On the record是否公开 | Public公开 | Private私密 |
| Outcome结果 | Win / lose有输有赢 | Terms you both signed双方共同签署的条款 |
| The family after事后的家庭 | Usually broken多半破裂 | Usually intact多半保住 |
How it works流程
Three sessions. Designed to finish.三节调解。为了结束而设计。
Not open-ended counselling. A structured process with an end point — most families sign in the third session.这不是没有尽头的心理辅导，而是有明确终点的结构化流程——多数家庭在第三节签署协议。
Everyone is heard让每个人都被听见
≈ 3 hours约 3 小时We meet each side separately first, then together. No interruptions, no scoring points. Most families discover in this session that the real disagreement is not the one they have been arguing about for the past year.我们先分别与各方单独会面，再安排共同会谈。不打断，不计分。多数家庭在这一节里才发现：真正的分歧，并不是他们过去一年一直在争的那件事。
Options on the table把方案摆上桌
≈ 3 hours约 3 小时We work through what is actually possible — who keeps what, who buys out whom, what the tax and stamp duty consequences are, and what each option really costs. Numbers replace assumptions.我们逐一厘清真正可行的选项——谁保留什么、谁买断谁、税务与印花税的后果是什么、每个方案的实际代价是多少。用数字取代猜测。
The agreement达成协议
≈ 3 hours约 3 小时The terms are settled and put into a written settlement agreement the same day, signed while everyone is still in the room. From there it becomes paperwork instead of a dispute.当天敲定条款，写成书面和解协议，趁大家还在同一个房间里签署。从那一刻起，它变成文书工作，而不再是一场纠纷。
How it is arranged配套安排
Three ways to begin.三种开始的方式。
Choose the shape that fits your family. The fee for whichever you choose is fixed, quoted to you in writing before anything begins, and normally shared equally between the parties — so nobody is buying an advantage. A contested estate fought through the courts routinely costs many times more.选一个适合您家庭的方式。无论选择哪一项，费用都是固定的，会在开始之前以书面向您报价，并通常由各方平均分担——没有人是在花钱买优势。相较之下，遗产争议一旦打上法庭，开销往往是这些的许多倍。
The First Conversation第一次对话
For families who want to test whether talking can still work, before committing to anything.适合想先试试「还谈得下去吗」，暂时不想做任何承诺的家庭。
- One structured session, up to 3 hours一节结构化调解，最长 3 小时
- Private pre-session with each side与各方分别进行会前单独会谈
- Written summary of what was agreed and what remains open书面纪要：已达成的共识与仍待处理的事项
- Fee credited if you continue to the full package若继续采用完整配套，此费用可折抵
The Three Sessions三节调解
The complete path from deadlock to a signed settlement — designed to finish, not to drag.从僵局到签署和解协议的完整流程——为了「结束」而设计，不是为了拖。
- Three structured sessions (Hear · Options · Agreement)三节结构化调解（倾听 · 方案 · 协议）
- Private pre-session with each side与各方分别进行会前单独会谈
- Review of the will, titles and estate documents beforehand事前审阅遗嘱、地契与遗产文件
- Drafting of the written settlement agreement草拟书面和解协议
- Meeting room at our Damansara Jaya office于本所 Damansara Jaya 办公室提供会谈场地
Extended Resolution延伸方案
For larger estates, several properties, a business in the estate, or more than three parties at the table.适合遗产规模较大、涉及多处产业、遗产中含有生意，或谈判桌上超过三方的情况。
- Up to five structured sessions最多五节结构化调解
- Everything in The Three Sessions包含「三节调解」的所有内容
- Valuation and tax-impact working with your accountant与您的会计师协作处理估值与税务影响
- Co-ordination with each party's own solicitors与各方各自的律师协调沟通
- Implementation roadmap after signing签署后的落实路线图
Fees are quoted in writing after a short confidential call, once we understand the size of the estate and how many parties are at the table. The quotation covers the mediation itself and the settlement agreement; disbursements, court filing fees, valuations, and the conveyancing or probate work needed to carry out what you agree are quoted separately. Nothing begins until the quotation is accepted.我们会先进行一次简短的保密通话，了解遗产规模与谈判桌上的各方人数后，再以书面报价。报价涵盖调解本身与和解协议的拟定；垫付费用、法庭入禀费、估值费，以及落实协议所需的产业转让或遗产认证工作，将另行报价。在报价获接受之前，不会展开任何工作。
Why bring it to us为什么交给我们
A mediator who also knows what the estate actually involves.一位调解员，同时懂得遗产背后真正的门道。
Accredited to mediate具备调解资格
Dylan is an accredited mediator with the Malaysian International Mediation Centre, established under the auspices of the Bar Council of Malaysia.Dylan 是马来西亚国际调解中心（MIMC）的认证调解员；该中心由马来西亚律师公会属下设立。
We know the file, not just the feelings我们懂档案，不只是情绪
Probate, letters of administration, land office transfers, stamp duty and RPGT — the things that decide whether a settlement can actually be carried out. An agreement that cannot be implemented is not an agreement.遗嘱认证、遗产管理书、土地局过户、印花税与产业盈利税——这些才决定一份和解能否真正落实。无法执行的协议，不算协议。
Plain language, both ways讲人话，两种语言都行
Sessions run in English, Bahasa Malaysia, Mandarin, Cantonese or Hokkien — so the elders in the room understand every word, not just the summary.调解可以英语、马来语、华语、粤语或福建话进行——让在场的长辈听懂的是每一句话，而不只是一段总结。
FAQ
What families ask before they say yes.家庭在答应之前，通常会问的。
Is what we say in mediation private?调解中所说的话是保密的吗？
Yes. Mediation is conducted privately and on a without-prejudice basis, which means what is said in the room is not evidence that can be used against anybody later in court. That is precisely what makes people willing to be honest.是的。调解以私密方式进行，并属「不损权益」（without prejudice）性质——房间里说的话，日后不能在法庭上作为对任何人不利的证据。正因如此，人们才愿意说真话。
Is the mediator on anyone's side?调解员会偏袒某一方吗？
No — and this matters. As mediator the role is neutral: we do not act as solicitor for any party in the dispute, and we do not give one side legal advice against the other. Each party remains free to have their own lawyer, and we will work with them.不会——这一点很重要。担任调解员时，角色是中立的：我们不会在该纠纷中担任任何一方的代表律师，也不会为其中一方提供针对另一方的法律意见。各方仍可自行聘请律师，我们会与他们协作。
What if we do not reach an agreement?如果我们谈不成呢？
Then you have lost some hours and a fraction of what a trial costs — and you will usually have narrowed the dispute, which makes anything that follows shorter and cheaper. Nobody is forced to settle. You can walk away at any point.那么您损失的只是几个小时，以及审讯费用的一小部分——而且争议范围通常已经缩小，接下来的程序也会更短、更省。没有人被迫和解。您随时可以离开。
Is a settlement agreement legally binding?和解协议具有法律约束力吗？
A properly drafted settlement agreement is a contract between the parties and is enforceable as such. Where court proceedings have already been filed, terms can be recorded as a consent judgment so that they carry the weight of a court order.妥善拟定的和解协议是各方之间的合约，可依合约强制执行。若已入禀法庭，条款也可记录为同意判决（consent judgment），从而具备法庭命令的效力。
Everyone lives in different states. Must we all be in the room?大家住在不同州属，一定要全部到场吗？
It is better in person, but not essential. Sessions can be run online or in a hybrid format where one or two family members join by video.面对面较好，但并非必须。调解可以线上进行，也可采混合模式，让一两位家人以视讯方式参与。
General information only — not legal advice. Acting as mediator is a neutral role; we do not act as solicitor for any party to the dispute we are mediating.以上仅为一般资讯，并非法律意见。担任调解员属中立角色；就我们所调解的纠纷，我们不会担任任何一方的代表律师。
One room, one afternoon一个房间，一个下午
Before the courtroom decides for you.在法庭替你们决定之前。
Tell us where the deadlock is. If mediation is not right for your matter, we will tell you that too.告诉我们僵局卡在哪里。如果调解并不适合您的案件，我们也会直说。
Damansara Jaya, 47400 Petaling Jaya,
Selangor, Malaysia